Jealousy is no place to live. At best it’s a stepping-stone to emotions that are more productive—inspiration, commitment, conviction—and dreams. Jealousy, in and of itself, is destructive. It is a virus that taints your other emotions. It is a thief that steals your joy. It is a dishonest lens that distorts your perspective—enlarging the negatives while obscuring everything that should inspire gratitude.
Envy is a disappointing destination. It should be no more than a layover to something more positive and sustainable. Because if you can leap from envy to something else—if you can let it propel you beyond feeling jealous to doing something about it, then it can be useful. If you can convert your envy into motivation—let it inspire you to make decisions and take actions towards a goal, then it has served the best purpose it possibly can.
If you find yourself jealous of another person or coveting something they have, try to isolate exactly what your envy means you want. Then make a realistic assessment of the cost. Are you willing to make the sacrifice, spend the time, or do the work? Because whether or not the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, both lawns need to be weeded and mowed.
Another remedy for jealousy is gratitude. It is harder to get stuck in the quicksand of envy when you’re focused on your blessings. Now is always a great time to be thankful. It is harder to wallow in want when you’re full of appreciation. Envy cannot endure being truly grateful.
“Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?” ~Proverbs 27:4